Leslie Jones is no different than you and I

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The other day, beautiful and hilarious actress Leslie Jones decided to have a transparent moment during her work out, which caused everyone to react like she was darn near suicidal. She posted a picture, and the caption for Twitter read:

“Ok back to cardio. But confession.. I feel like I’m doing it for nothing. I know it not [sic] I’m healthy and look good but I really feel like ‘what’s it all for’ if the people you want to notice don’t. I just feel like I might die alone. Sorry that’s pretty heavy today!!”

People immediately began scrambling to send her all types of messages, which were extremely uplifting! However, most of the messages revealed that a lot of people didn’t seem to get the idea Leslie was trying to get across. She wasn’t declaring low self esteem. She wasn’t declaring unhappiness with life or her looks. She simply was having a moment, like many of us tend to have at times.

Every day isn’t going to be a great day, and every moment of our day isn’t going to be positive and filled with perfect thoughts. Sometimes we have those moments where we feel down, or like the hard work we are putting in goes unnoticed sometimes. Sometimes we have moments as single women or men where we want to feel more appreciated than we are. This doesn’t make anyone desperate, lonely, or void of self esteem. It simply makes us human.

Leslie Jones doesn’t hate herself, or hate how she looks. You can take one look at her and see that she’s full of life and light. You can see the confidence she exudes. That moment of transparency was just that…..a moment. Feeling crappy will happen sometimes, and that’s okay. We all need a moment at times to vent our frustrations and be honest with ourselves, instead of trying to always make it seem like everything is okay. As long as you don’t dwell in those moments, or let those feelings overpower how good you do feel about yourself the rest of the time, it’s okay to be vulnerable sometimes.

Surely you’ve had a day or two where you felt like “what’s the point in this?”, and had to check yourself later. Being single, you may have had days where you were frustrated with the single status or dating scene, and ready for something worthwhile to come along. Leslie Jones is no different. We all have our days or moments where things don’t seem to be working out like we want them to.

Leslie Jones is going to be okay, I promise. She has many things to smile about and be grateful for without stressing all day every day over guys not liking her at this moment. The same way she bounced back from her moment, is the same way you should bounce back from your own days of feeling not sure of yourself. This isn’t just a celebrity thing.  We all feel unnoticed or unappreciated at times.

Leslie Jones lives in each of us. There will be amazing days, and then there will be low moments. The beauty of it all is that we get to choose where we remain. Pity parties are okay sometimes, as long as we don’t make the small party a lifestyle or habit. Those low moments are okay, as long as we don’t dwell there. I have a feeling Leslie Jones won’t dwell there long!

 

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A Wedding is only the Beginning


Loving,encouraging, supporting, and respecting your partner is quintessential to not just healthy relationships, but also a healthy marriage. If you find yourself more worried about what your partner can do for you as opposed to how you can continue to make the marriage flourish, you probably signed up for marriage for all the wrong reasons. Folks make the mistake of thinking getting the last name and union is the achievement, and then stop putting in the work that got them there. Marriage isn’t an accomplishment, it’s an ongoing journey. It’s up to you to make and keep that journey beautiful and healthy. Being selfless is a great start.💕💋 

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A quick lesson on worth and relationships 

A lot of people have this wrong,that’s why relationships and marriages don’t always last as we expect them to. So many ppl seek companionship that will make them complete,in substitution for seeking to be whole and complete before they provide companionship to someone else. 

Your worth should NEVER be determined by your relationship status. People can make you feel happy,but they don’t complete you. Feeling whole is an inside job. 💕 #healthyforevers 

Divorce rates stay so high!

Divorces happen in such high numbers because a lot of people are more into the ideas of weddings,rings, and recognition instead of their partner, living as a union and all the maintenance that comes with it. You have a lot of women that are more interested in being the talk of the town rather than actually talking to their partners. 

The result is a lot of women and men end up chasing a perfect public appearance and united front full time to the point where they have no real time to actually work on the areas their marriage may be suffering. This only makes things worse. 

Focus more on improving the healthiness and happiness in your relationships, and couples won’t have to work so hard at damage control.

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Valentines Day is one of my fave holidays,even as a single woman. For me it’s not a day exclusively for those who have a significant other..it’s a day of love in general. It’s a day of appreciation, a day to do a little more loving on those you care about and celebrate other people’s love also. Its not just like “any other day”. Of course we get love year round but Vday is a special day for it. I personally love to see all the genuine shows of appreciation, the excitement as people post their gifts and flowers. It’s a beautiful thing that should make anyone happy. 💕🤗 Single folks,keep your head up and your heart light. You’re loved and appreciated no matter what your status is. Married/taken folks,simply enjoy the beauty of the day without focusing on “unhappy” single folks or taking jabs at your partners “side pieces”. Let’s all enjoy  Vday with a positive mind and beautiful outlook on the day of love and appreciation,instead of a heart of bitterness and a mouth that spews insults(whether single,married,or in between) 💕💋 happy Valentine’s Day💋💋💋☺️

What Do I do with the Love-Dru Hill


This song….smh. This will forever be one of the best break up songs known to mankind. I recommend it for everyone’s breakup/broken-hearted playlist. Talk about singing your heart out! 

Dru Hill sings about not being able to get over someone they love,no matter what they do. I think we all can relate to these moments. When you’re single and able to do what you want,but that person is still on your mind. When you find yourself wondering if you’ll ever be able to love someone as you loved that person.

“I could stay out every night now,hang out til the dawn/I can do what I want to,anytime I want/ and I can make believe we never met/ I can clear out all the closets,put your things outside the door/ but I just can’t seem to not love you anymore….”

The words of this song always make me tear up thinking about past situations that made me feel this way. It’s hard not to get in your feelings when Sisqo is singing these lyrics in his powerful and passionate voice.

Take a listen here.

Soundtrack of my heart: “Fool of Me”-Me’Shell NdegeOcello

I’ll never forget how this song made me cry from my soul as these two played a 1 on 1 basketball game for his heart at the end of “Love and Basketball”. This song is so beautiful, yet so sad! It’s meaningful to me even to this day because I’ve experienced this songs lyrics on so many different levels.

Everyone at some point knows how it feels to care deeply about someone that wants nothing to do with you,for whatever reason. Everyone has at least one person that they feel made a fool out of them and broke their heart in some way. There’s not too many things more cruel than snatching someone’s heart out of their chest and stomping on it with the harsh reality that interest and feelings just aren’t there anymore…or never were.  

The words are everything, and her voice is perfect for delivering them. 

Take a listen here.