A Wedding is only the Beginning


Loving,encouraging, supporting, and respecting your partner is quintessential to not just healthy relationships, but also a healthy marriage. If you find yourself more worried about what your partner can do for you as opposed to how you can continue to make the marriage flourish, you probably signed up for marriage for all the wrong reasons. Folks make the mistake of thinking getting the last name and union is the achievement, and then stop putting in the work that got them there. Marriage isn’t an accomplishment, it’s an ongoing journey. It’s up to you to make and keep that journey beautiful and healthy. Being selfless is a great start.๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’‹ 

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New feature alert! Breakups involving children

Good morning ! I’d like to invite you guys to check out my latest feature over at Single Wives Club regarding breakups and children. It’s a great quick read and I hope you guys will check it out and share with your friends and family! You can read the article here.  

You used to be enough..but that’s no longer good for me

I remember when I’d be the happiest girl ever to receive a text from you in the morning or early afternoon. I’d be all giddy and blushing, because I loved to hear from you. Even if it was short it made my day. 

I remember when I used to think that I was the luckiest girl in the world to be dating someone like you. Tall and handsome, friendly,driven, and all other women seemed to do anything and everything to get your attention, even before we met. Yet you chose me.

I remember when you’d text and say you were coming over at the end of the evening once you were done hanging out with your boys. I would eagerly jump up and make sure I had your favorite movies and drinks available. Make sure I cooked one of your fave meals or picked up food from somewhere we enjoy eating together.

Then I remember waking up one day feeling different. Those morning/afternoon texts no longer were good enough. The excuse of “I’m not a fan of talking on the phone” no longer was one I would accept. I want someone that ignores how much they dislike phone conversations because they enjoy my company, or simply want to hear my voice. I want more than 160 characters grouped together in empty textversations that fade into nothing after 4 or 5 exchanges.

I remember the day i realized that you enjoyed your role of ladies man way too much, to the point that it had turned you into a male attention whore. Where women were willing to any and everything to catch your eye or get some of your time, you were willing to do any and everything to keep that status and attention from any and everyone you could get it from. Your personality changed. You proudly  became a man that disrespects,degrades, and reduces women to body parts and sex. I no longer felt lucky that I had what other women wanted. I remember that feeling turning into disgust and saying to myself that those other women can have you. They’d probably be a better fit. Attention whores seem to work better together. 

I remember when I finally realized that all those nights you chose to end with me had nothing to do with you wanting me to be the last person you spent time with before you closed your eyes, or the first person you saw when you woke up. I realized that was just your “for-sure” at the end of the night once you’re done partying every weekend (with the same fellas you kick it with every day) and once you’re done meeting the thirsty women you’ve added to your contacts to rotate in with me next week. Yeah of course you wouldn’t be anywhere you didn’t want  to be, but wanting to be everywhere else until the wee hours of the night was no longer enough.

I have no desire to engage in situationships. I have no desire to associate with desperate attention seekers, because they’re always looking for the next best thing. I no longer have a need for a textationship. I desire meaningful conversation on a consistent basis, not just when you can find the time after getting drunk to come by.  

So when you playfully hit my inbox or text messages these days, cracking jokes about me abandoning you because you’re not good enough,the truth is..you’re absolutely right. 

Happy Valentine’s Day!

Valentines Day is one of my fave holidays,even as a single woman. For me it’s not a day exclusively for those who have a significant other..it’s a day of love in general. It’s a day of appreciation, a day to do a little more loving on those you care about and celebrate other people’s love also. Its not just like “any other day”. Of course we get love year round but Vday is a special day for it. I personally love to see all the genuine shows of appreciation, the excitement as people post their gifts and flowers. It’s a beautiful thing that should make anyone happy. ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿค— Single folks,keep your head up and your heart light. You’re loved and appreciated no matter what your status is. Married/taken folks,simply enjoy the beauty of the day without focusing on “unhappy” single folks or taking jabs at your partners “side pieces”. Let’s all enjoy  Vday with a positive mind and beautiful outlook on the day of love and appreciation,instead of a heart of bitterness and a mouth that spews insults(whether single,married,or in between) ๐Ÿ’•๐Ÿ’‹ happy Valentine’s Day๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹โ˜บ๏ธ

Tinder Foolery

The more I try to give Tinder a chance,the more I realize it’s just not for someone like me. In fact, the most exciting thing about Tinder is scrolling the profiles to swipe left or right, and the short-lived excitement when you see the “it’s a match!” message flash across the screen. 

My latest Tinder experience included a match with a handsome guy who stated in his caption that he was interested in making friends and a relationship (if it happens). He enjoyed quite a few things that I also love to do,so I was pleased when I saw he had also swiped right for my profile. He wrote me within ten minutes of my swipe. 

Him: “Hi beautiful”

Me: “Hi! How are you?”

Him: “I’m okay beautiful. What you up to?”

(Mind you,it’s almost 1 am)

Me: “Lying in bed getting some writing done. You?”

Him: “you should come lie in bed with me” 

*Side eye followed by major eye roll*

Me: “I don’t even know you lol”

Him: “come get to know me. I’ll send you my address.”

Me: “sir do you know what time it is? I don’t go to people’s homes at this time of night, nor do I go to homes of strangers”

Him: “that’s too bad. You’re sexy as f*ck” 

(That message was followed up by him removing me as a match immediately.)

So much for meeting new people and possibilities of a relationship. I guess in Tinder land that really means “let’s have sex on the first night”. 

What Do I do with the Love-Dru Hill


This song….smh. This will forever be one of the best break up songs known to mankind. I recommend it for everyone’s breakup/broken-hearted playlist. Talk about singing your heart out! 

Dru Hill sings about not being able to get over someone they love,no matter what they do. I think we all can relate to these moments. When you’re single and able to do what you want,but that person is still on your mind. When you find yourself wondering if you’ll ever be able to love someone as you loved that person.

“I could stay out every night now,hang out til the dawn/I can do what I want to,anytime I want/ and I can make believe we never met/ I can clear out all the closets,put your things outside the door/ but I just can’t seem to not love you anymore….”

The words of this song always make me tear up thinking about past situations that made me feel this way. It’s hard not to get in your feelings when Sisqo is singing these lyrics in his powerful and passionate voice.

Take a listen here.