3 Not So Typical Places You May Meet Your Mr. Right

 

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Dating can be tough. If 2017 taught you anything about dating, it was that the process of finding decent guys to date is sometimes equivalent to banging your head against a wall, and hoping for some kind of miracle that will knock the wall down.  Why does it seem like most women feel like all guys in the dating pool are the same? Sometimes that is exactly the case, because you’re looking in the same ole places and expecting different results. Don’t be afraid to try new venues in order to meet potential partners, and release your hang ups about places that aren’t so “normal”. Here are a few places to keep in mind as you tackle dating this year.
Charity Events 
What better way to meet someone with a big heart than through events where everyone’s donating or volunteering for a cause? This is a great way to meet guys that could have the same passion and purpose as you. This not only gives you a chance to make a difference and give back to your community, but also to interact  with potential partners that have similar life goals.
Does this mean that every guy at these events will be a great match or sincere in their intentions? Not necessarily, but it’s a good place to take a chance. After all, these men are choosing to take time out of their schedules and help serve others. A selfless spirit is already a plus.
Online
I know,I know….I tend to cringe too sometimes at the automatic thought of hookup sites disguised as dating sites that help you to find your forever. I’ve definitely had my fair share of horror stories and comedy from my dating site trial and error phases. But set aside your urge to roll your eyes, dismissing the internet altogether based off past experiences or the popular opinion of infamous dating sites.
Give decent dating sites another breath of life. It may seem like most guys there are only looking for a quick, good time, but don’t be so quick to
write  off every guy that reaches out to you as such. A little online conversation doesn’t hurt anyone, and sometimes leads to great relationships and networking. Don’t be in a rush to take things offline just because someone else is. Take your time, and remember that you control your the pace of whatever you decide to pursue.
Another thing to remember is that you can use non dating sites online to meet others also. Don’t let the negative talk of being “thirsty” and “sliding in DM’s” scare you away from trying to get to know those you interact with online. We’re all adults, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with speaking respectfully and privately with someone you have an interest in. Don’t be afraid to use regular social networking platforms like Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram as places to meet someone. It’s a great way to meet those with similar interests as you that you may not run into daily offline.
Bookstores
This may sound cliche,but you’d be surprised how many people overlook the possibility of meeting an intelligent, creative, and driven partner inside a bookstore. This is another one of those situations where you can hit two birds with one stone, because you can possibly meet someone with substance while also getting a chance to pick up books you’re interested, or books that will help you to advance in your own craft.
If bookstores don’t make you feel like you’re in a beautiful corner of Heaven (as they make me feel, don’t judge) and they’re not your normal place to frequent, start small. Step into one to simply sit and enjoy a coffee while people watching. Eventually you can work your way up to browsing the store, or even bringing your laptop to sit and get your work done peacefully. It’s actually quite relaxing for those that have never chilled in a bookstore before.
Everything that works for others isn’t always going to work for you,and vice versa. Don’t miss out on a potentially great match for yourself by continuing to search in the same places you’ve always frequented, or by overlooking places that don’t seem as exciting. Take on a different approach to dating this year, and as time goes on you’ll find that it will bring about some positive results.
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Later never came…

Have you ever planned to spend time with someone, and they go missing for the rest of the day? I don’t know about you but when things like that happen, I go into major reflection mode. To me,those “no call no show” moments are much deeper than the lack of consideration we tend to focus on. I always feel there’s a bigger reason why things didn’t happen as they were expected to.

It may be as simple as someone forgetting to call you back when they said they would in order to make the definite plans. Hey,stuff happens. However, when it’s someone that is claiming to be interested in you intimately, lack of follow through tends to take on a different meaning. 

Lack of reliability has different levels to me. I can’t see myself getting disappointed at one of my best friends canceling on a night out, like I would for a guy that says he wants to be more with me, yet flakes on scheduled date night. It’s the same with phone calls. My girlfriends and I have good intentions to keep in touch by phone in a more consistent manner,but it gets more and more difficult as each year passes and we all advance with personal endeavors,etc. However, like most women walking this planet, we wouldn’t tolerate the same lack of communication from a love interest or a guy that claims to want a relationship of significance with us.

Don’t get me wrong. Lack of follow through may not be something that’s a big deal to them,but it doesn’t make it any less significant for you. You have a right to be mad and/or disappointed when someone stands you up,or simply doesn’t do what they said they would,no matter who they are to you. You have a right to release the idea of making plans with them again. You have the right to release anyone that is flaky from your life if their reliability doesn’t suit your standards. 

Back to the point of my post. Recently I was asked on more than one occasion by someone interested in me intimately to spend time on my off day. I couldn’t commit to a specific time due to other obligations including mommy duties,but did let them know that I was cool with that. However,that day rolled around and when I attempted to make plans I was dismissed for the evening with a text message saying “I’ll hit you up in a little bit”. Of course that was at 7 in the evening,and “in a little bit” never came. 

When I got in bed that night, I began to reflect on the situation, and what it could possibly mean in the bigger picture, outside of him just not following through. I realized that maybe this was God’s way of protecting me from a compromising situation that He knows I try so hard to not involve myself in day to day. I’m not just talking physically,but emotionally, and spiritually also. Maybe we weren’t able to align our schedules after trying all week to come together simply because we might not be meant to spend too much alone time together. 

Perhaps this is God’s way of nudging me of away from making decisions that don’t align with the desires of the heart, and the healthy relationship I know that He has intended for me . 💕