So often we go into situations with an extremely hopeful mind that things will be different this time around. We decide to take a positive approach,because in our mind and heart it makes sense to give relationships our all if we’re gonna give them any consideration at all. Your intentions are good. You want it to work. We all deserve second chances…right?
Whatever you decide to do,be realistic. Just because your intentions are good, doesn’t mean that someone else’s towards you will be. The movies make second chances look beautiful,with happy endings that warm everyone’s hearts. The reality is that not all second chances will be magical.
Not all second starts will produce happily ever afters, or even great beginnings. Sometimes people want second chances simply because they are opportunists.They sense the vulnerability and/or convenience, and want to capitalize on that.
On the other hand,sometimes they do like you, just not enough to want a committed relationship. Sometimes they feel a second chance will make things right between you two, and that things will be better. The problem is sometimes simply that everyone we want is not necessarily meant for us. The old saying goes “everything good to us is not good for us”.
I don’t know about anyone else,but I like to pray over situations like this. I ask God to reveal the intentions in others and bless me with discernment so that I can know what doors need to be opened as well as which ones to shut.
I hope when the time comes for you to make a decision on giving someone a second chance that you remember not what you want, but what you deserve. I hope that you evaluate intentions and make the decision that is best for not just your happiness,but your wholeness. 💕